Do you feel the need to throw yourself at your boyfriend? Are
your actions becoming erratic? Does everything you do push your ex boyfriend farther away? Does
it seem like everywhere you look you see happy loving couples?
Well when you have been deeply in love with a man and you are
suddenly put out to dry your mind can suddenly resemble that of someone locked up in an
institution. Your heart is breaking and your mind is screaming "What can I do to
get my ex boyfriend back"?
Take a break from the turmoil for a moment and follow some
solid advice that will greatly increase your chances of getting your ex boyfriend
back.
The first thing to realize is that your emotions are quite
normal. Obviously you care a great deal about this guy or else you wouldn't be reading an
article about how to get your ex boyfriend back.
However if you are wearing your emotions on your sleeve and
feeling needy toward your ex it is only human nature that your ex boyfriend is going to push
farther away. Think about the times in your life when someone has smothered you with attention
- not showered you but smothered you. Big difference between the two.
The fact of the matter is no one likes to be dripping wet with
someone who is so needy. Human nature steps in and pushes away what you so desire. Fighting
against the laws of human nature will not get you what you want; namely to have your arms
wrapped around your ex boyfriend and have everything back the way things were.
So you may be asking yourself "what then...what can I do to
get my ex boyfriend back"? A better question may be "what can I stop doing to get my ex
boyfriend back"? Are you text messaging him 50 times a day? Are you bombarding him with emails
and phone calls. Are you attempting to make late night booty calls? Are you crying and pleading
with him trying to make him feel sorry for you?
If so, this is very normal behavior for someone who has just
had their heart put through a blender. Your heart cries out for your ex boyfriend, something it
can not have. However if you are going to have a chance of getting your ex boyfriend back these
actions are going to have to stop. I mean right now before it is too late!
Ok, so now we know what not to do. What can I do to get my ex
boyfriend back? Go down this path instead.
You are going to have to start making human nature work for
you and not against you - Reverse course. Your heart will fight you but start by taking a break
from what has not worked. No more calls (booty calls included), text messaging or emails. If
you have to see him, such as in class or work, be cordial but don't talk to him for any length
of time. Ideally though there should be no communication between the two of you.
Use the extra time to work on YOU. The focus should be on YOU.
It should be all about loving YOU. Workout like a wild woman, read a great book you have been
putting off, write about how you are feeling (don't be tempted to email him what you wrote), go
somewhere that you have never been before.
If you are a drinker stop drinking for awhile (just the
opposite of what most people do). No doubt this will be a challenging time for you, but it will
pay off no matter what happens between you and your ex boyfriend.
This is now where the laws of human nature start to work in
your favor. You are no longer accessible to your ex boy friend. Your ex will start to wonder
what has happened to you. It is human nature to be curious about where you have suddenly gone
and what you have been doing. After all, this is the woman that had been pursuing
him.
Now you become a bit mysterious. You are no longer coming on
to him and human nature begins to flip around. You ex now is in a position to even start
missing you. This of course could never be possible with your old smother him to death
plan.
So what can you do to get your ex boyfriend back? Now you
should be able to answer that question a whole lot better.
The idea behind this strategy is to work with human nature,
not against it. The key to repairing a breakup is not to come across as desperate and needy.
Take a breath, create some much needed space between you and your ex boyfriend. Change the
focus over to yourself. Do things for yourself that empower you. Love yourself.
Before you know it human nature will swing the other way. When
your ex boyfriend comes knocking make sure to not welcome him with open arms....yet. This would
be a good time to play a little hard to get. Not rude or anything but not easy either. Take it
slow and ease back into your relationship.
Before you know it the day will come when one of your
girlfriend's comes crying up to you asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?" Just
remember to tell her to work with human nature, not against it.
