First you need to take a reality check. Where do you stand with your feelings about your ex girlfriend? Are you feeling lower then a whale's turd or maybe your breakup doesn't matter all that much to you. If you are reading this our bet the former.

The most important question is do you still love the girl? Do you really want her back or is it your wounded pride that wants her back because she dumped you? Maybe you are just feeling lonely and want her back because you don't want to be alone with yourself. Ask yourself if there are other reasons besides love that you want to get your ex girlfriend back. If you decide it's for reasons other then love, then forget about getting your ex back. Address the real reasons instead.

If it is love and you want to know "how can I get back together with my ex girlfriend", you first better check your emotions at the door. You have to get a hold of your emotions if you are going to have a chance at getting your ex back.

Do not come off as clingy and needy in front of your ex girlfriend. This is not the time to go crying your heart out in front of her. Your own family and friends are best for that. Get your emotions out with them.

The idea is to put up a good front with your ex girlfriend. Do not carry on begging her to come back with you, do not camp out on her front porch and definitely don't go stalking around after her. Back off !! Just the opposite of what your heart is telling you isn't it? Leave your heart for the romance. Use your head (the big one) to get her back.

Give some serious thought about happened to make your ex girlfriend break up with you in the first place. What caused the arguments? Were her needs not being met? What could you do better next time? Money can often put a strain on a relationship. If need be, take a class to upgrade your skills so you can get a better job. Whatever it was though address the issues then take massive action to correct them.

Now take some time for yourself and work on positive things. One of the best things you can do is hit the gym. Why not get in the best shape of your life? The ancient Greeks knew there was a direct connection between a strong body and a strong mind. Use some of that grief and get it out with good hard work outs. Set some goals as to what you want to weigh and what you want to look like....then go get them.

While doing positive things for yourself slowly start talking with your ex. This is a bit of a balancing act because if it is done too soon you may be overcome with emotion and blow your chances. If done too late she may have completely moved on. Four weeks is usually about the time to start some contact. 

Start slowly opening up the lines of communication. When she sees you in a good physical and mental state she will see you are doing just fine without her.

Woman want a man who is strong and confident and there you will be.... before you know it she will be back in your arms.