Are you currently in panic mode because you have just been thrown to the curb by your ex? Are you desperately thinking about "how can I get back together with my ex?" Are you wanting to call your ex twenty times a day or run over to where he or she lives and pound your fist through the door? You are not alone as most people feel this way when their ex has left them with a hole in their heart.

One of the most sensible things you can do right now is do the opposite of what your heart is telling you to do. Do you want to send another email to your ex? Don't! Have you looked at your ex's profile on MySpace for the 100^th  time ? Don't! Have you been text messaging your ex about almost nothing? Don't! In other words don't do anything that is emotionally needy or clingy.

Most of these actions have just the opposite effect, pushing one's ex farther away emotionally.

So, how can I get back together with my ex? Let's work on a sensible plan to do just that.

One of the first things you must do to get back together with your ex is accept the break up! This can sometimes be very hard to do. It is hard to admit the break up has really happened to you but it is the first step to getting back together with your ex.

Do this by letting your ex know you are okay with the break up. This will immediately take the stress and tension off the break up. It will also give you both a cooling off period. It will give you some time to think over your options. It will give your ex some time to reconsider what they have done and if breaking up is really what they want.

Now another important thing to remember for how to get back together with your ex is do not contact your ex for 4 weeks! That's right, do not make an effort to contact your ex for 4 weeks. By cutting off communication you are sending a powerful signal to your ex that you are doing just fine without them.

This will give him or her time to miss you and wonder what you have been doing. This may go against every fiber of your being but if you want to get back together with your ex you must not contact your ex. This will signal to your ex that you are willing to move on which is exactly the psyche that will help bring them back.

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Ok, so you have gotten yourself together both mentally and physically? Now is the time to start thinking about having contact with your ex. Think about what's the best way to ask them out on a date. The idea is to make it light and fun.

By spending some time together after your cooling off period, you can be a good judge if there is still some magic left between the two of you. It should be pretty apparent whether or not your ex still has real feeling for you or not.

If there clearly are feelings, then you can start to build on that slowly. If there clearly is no electricity between the two of you then you will know for certain it is time to let go of your ex and move on to a better relationship.